tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-727796483119054706.post6009330366829336227..comments2024-01-30T02:03:03.358-05:00Comments on Deaf Expressions: CAN ANYONE HELP THIS DEAF "MAGOO"???Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-727796483119054706.post-2302099749985559742011-07-21T03:08:53.471-04:002011-07-21T03:08:53.471-04:00I came to this site on accident. I am hearing. I t...I came to this site on accident. I am hearing. I think that is horrible. I know that reunions suck when you CAN hear all the relatives whispering rude things about you, but frankly I don't see why people wouldn't want to make an effort to get to know someone and learn sign language as a means of communication. <br /><br />I am sure that they feel as left out of your life as you feel left out of theirs in this situation. The uncertanty of how to communicate is always there. Every time I walk into a room full of people I feel it. <br /><br />The only difference between you and them is there is only one of you. Both sides can't seem to converse. And it isn't like they are speaking japanese and all you have to do is learn it. They are the ones who need to learn your language. I think you should be assertive in showing them what signs are what and see if they don't start using them. You have alot to give in many ways, even if you are a magoo, I can tell from the above, that if I was given the chance in real life, you are someone I would want to be able to converse with. I am not saying to teach a whole room full of people how to use sign language. But the important people in your life NEED to know.. including your husbands family. If they don't learn they will be missing out on who you are.<br />It may not help this reunion, but it may help future ones. I am sorry if i am speaking out of turn or offending anyone, I just can't imagine one of my brothers marrying a deaf woman and us not trying to learn asl to get to know her.<br /><br />crystalAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-727796483119054706.post-43894650036645135372011-07-11T20:47:13.919-04:002011-07-11T20:47:13.919-04:00I totally understand your reluctance! last summer ...I totally understand your reluctance! last summer my husbands family invited us to his grndmothers 80th b-day party which if I knew then what I know now I wuld have made any excuse possible not to go! My husband and I have been marrie almost 18 yrs now so his family is well aware that I am deaf but have taken the stance that if they ignore it (deafnes) it will go away. I had a horrible time no one realy talked or even tried to talk to me and at night they all decided to sit around the campfire in the dark and talk which I immediatly became bored and looking to my husband for help he was too caught up with what was going on to even help me understand what was being said! I think the twitter idea is great or even if you and your husband come up with a game plan to keep you in the loop instead of him just marching off merrily leaving you behind. Sorry I'm a Magoo myself on this subject and do not want to go to the next reunion they have. Good luck!deafwriterhttp://betweentwoworlds.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-727796483119054706.post-89941284902770541492011-07-08T22:11:54.967-04:002011-07-08T22:11:54.967-04:00When I have to endure large family get togethers o...When I have to endure large family get togethers or other events with lots of people, my solution is usually to seek out the youngest members there (preferably no older than 3 or 4yrs old) and amuse myself with them. It's getting trickier because they're all getting older. They don't seem to care that I can't understand them. And they appreciate it when I make funny faces at them (well, at least up until age 2)<br />If there are no little ones to amuse myself with, I watch the other grown-ups and make up what they might be saying. The guys will always talk shop (weather, tractors, cows, fields) and the womenfolk will talk houses,kids, food and crafts.<br />The other option I use, which works best if the gathering is at my place or my parents farm, is to simply busy myself in the kitchen.<br />This is what works for me. Might not work for you. I have some hearing left and can read lips somewhat.Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07181893019331733687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-727796483119054706.post-58573257117041913472011-07-08T20:11:04.427-04:002011-07-08T20:11:04.427-04:00Might I suggest using twitter and tweeting? I have...Might I suggest using twitter and tweeting? I have found it to be a great way to communicate. My Fabulous Husband and I like to txt one another fun little things from across the room at events he is photographing. I can't hear, but we make it fun by texting. I've even txt my hosts a time or two and they laugh and we have fun. Set up a twitter account just for the event and make twitter part of the party and come up with funny little twitter names just for the event. It's an idea.Xpressive Handzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16002398180587845394noreply@blogger.com